In the past week, I came across a true standout video that was recently released via the Official TedTalks Youtube channel.
The speaker, Jia Jiang talks about a very real problem: the fear of rejection. He goes on to describe how it had severely impacted him at an early age, and what he had done to overcome it.
The story itself is inspiring. Jiang injects some brilliant humour into it while teaching us important lessons about how we perceive ourselves, and how we think others perceive us.
Every one of us thinks and assumes many things on a daily basis. Every week, we most likely run hundreds of different scenarios and outcomes through our minds. We’re mentality creating misleading outcomes for ourselves that might be so far from actual reality. The question is, do you really think that these potential outcomes have any merit? Deep down I think most of us would agree that they do not. I believe the act of assuming is what leads us to serious procrastination. This then sets us up for the ultimately fear of being rejected.
However, the truth is that without ever confirming the legitimacy of our assumptions through either direct speech, written writing or confirmative body gestures, we’re simply filling our minds with self-doubt. This is detrimental to the decisions we make in both our social and professional lives.
To end my note, my biggest takeaway from Jia’s talk can be summed up in one simple quote.
Never assume what another is thinking. Simply ask first and you will have maximised your chances at receiving.
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